Monday 3 April 2017

Who keeps the pet after divorce? #familylaw

A recent Australian family law decision illustrates the difficulty parties can face when pets are involved in a separation.
In Downey & BealeJudge Harman was asked to decide who should retain the dog as part of the final settlement between a husband and wife.
In this case, the parties and their lawyers managed to agree on a property settlement and save themselves the additional emotional and financial cost of going to a final hearing. They managed to agree about how to divide every single piece of property except for one – the dog. And before you ask, yes, the dog is considered “property”.
As a dog (and cat) owner myself, the definition of animals as ‘property’ does not sit well with me. In his Judgement, Judge Harman quotes Roger Caras saying “dogs are not our whole life, but they make our lives whole”. I couldn’t agree more. However, the fact is that at the moment, animals, including beloved pets, are treated as property for the purposes of a property settlement between married and de facto couples.
In this particular case, His Honour considered a number of factors regarding the ownership of the dog (side note: believe it or not, the dog’s name was withheld from the judgement – presumably because using it’s name could have identified the parties – it makes me very curious as to what sort of unique name he/she may have had. For the purposes of this post, we’ll call her Lassie).
Some of considerations for the Court included:
  • – Who purchased Lassie and for what purpose (ie was she a birthday gift to the wife);
  • – Who contributed to Lassie’s costs (ie vet care, dog food, etc);
  • – Who Lassie lived with prior to, during and after the marriage (ie whose possession was she in);
  • – Who was listed as “owner” in certain documents relating to Lassie;
  • – Whether she was registered, when that occurred and in whose name it was
The Wife’s case was that she had found Lassie as a puppy for sale (before marriage), took the Husband to see Lassie and the Husband offered to pay for Lassie as an early birthday present. This purchase occurred a few months prior to the Wife’s birthday. The wife also produced bank statements showing expenses she had paid for Lassie and documents from the vet listing her as Lassie’s owner. Lassie had also remained with the Wife after separation.
The Husband produced evidence that he initially purchased Lassie – and he disputed that it was as a gift. Unlike the wife however, he was unable to produce other documents regarding contributions he made to Lassie during the relationship. He did produce registration papers listing himself as Lassie’s owner, however he had only taken this step some 8 months after the parties separated, and when Lassie was still in the Wife’s possession.
Ultimately, His Honour held that the wife should retain possession and ownership of Lassie.
It is not uncommon in property proceedings for people to reach agreement on all of the “big ticket” items (such as the house and superannuation) and then get stuck on smaller items. Sometimes, this can result in the entire agreement falling over and the parties proceeding to hearing on all issues. Sensibly in this case, the Husband and Wife retained their agreement on the big ticket items, and only sought a judgment about the one item in dispute. This still would have been at additional cost to the parties, but clearly Lassie meant more to them than the legal fees.
We have a number of animal lovers in our office, and sometimes they even bring their pets in to the office to pay a visit. We understand that even though a pet is not viewed as a significant “asset” in the pool, it can be the most important thing to you. 
Kasey Fox is a Canberra Family Lawyer and Director at Farrar Gesini Dunn,Canberra Office 

Originally published as Who keeps the puppy? #NationalPuppyDay


Wednesday 8 March 2017

Are you a Super Woman?

I often hear people talking about “Super Women” who can ‘do it all’ - but what about the rest of us who can’t do it all?
Every day I see women giving themselves a hard time for not living up to the Super Woman ideal. This International Women’s Day #IWD2017, it’s time that we embrace the idea that being a Super Woman doesn’t have to mean doing it all. In fact – how about defining a “Super Woman” as someone who does what she can, with what she has, and supports other women to be their own kind of Super Woman?
When I think of Super Women in my life, they come in many forms. Just a few include:
  • the colleague who juggles work and children, and still finds time to mentor and encourage others
  • the young assistant who has decided to go back to University to study law while still working fulltime
  • the family member who had her first child in her early 20’s, her fourth child in her early 40’s, went through 2 separations and then got her degree and dream job
  • the client who, in the middle of an ugly divorce, came up with a genius way of getting her daughter to give up her dummy
  • the friend who spent many of her single years caring for her mother and grandfather
  • the single mother that works full time, cares for her son, and also manages to volunteer at his school and coach his sporting team – all while having fabulous lashes!
  • the junior lawyer who gave up her free time on Australia Day to go the extra mile for a client
  • the fellow professional who has a little one, and one on the way, and still manages to look like she’s just walked off a movie set
  • the many women I know who have struggled with depression, and still manage to get out of bed most days
And then there is me – I’m a 34 year old lawyer, working in family law in Canberra. I am also a Director of the firm that I’ve been with since I started my career. I have a partner, pets and a house, but no kids. I don’t have a lot of the other stresses that some women have. By the usual definition, I can’t be a Super Woman because I don’t have kids and don’t do it all. But I think sometimes I am a Super Woman. We all are.
Some weeks, I’ve worked multiple 12 hour + days, pre-cooked meals for the week, babysat for friends, taken care of my multiple animals, worked on my client’s cases at 3am, painted the fence, remembered to call my mother, done the dishes, taken some ‘me’ time and just generally been awesome.
Other weeks, I’ve been impressed to get through the day without a run in my stockings.
Hey, I’m human. I can’t always be a Super Woman. No one can.
So maybe it’s time women gave each other, and more importantly ourselves, a break.
While writing this, I heard Emma Watson on the news say “Feminism is not a stick to beat other women with.” Very true. It’s also not a stick to beat ourselves with.
So give yourself a break and acknowledge the great things you do.
You ARE a Super Woman.

Originally published as "Super Women ?" at http://www.fgd.com.au/super-women/

Friday 17 February 2017

Shared care, Co-Parenting and developing a Parental Alliance

shared care
Shared care can been seen by many as an unachievable goal, particularly after a messy divorce. But in some cases, if both parents are able to put aside their differences and work together, shared care can work.
In a study titled Post-separation parenting arrangements and developmental outcomes for infants and children the experts commented that “The data suggest that parents who made shared care ‘work’ lived near each other; tried to respect the competence of the other parent; and were flexible and accommodating – not rigid – in their approach.”
For shared care to be in the children’s best interests, it largely comes down to the parents, their attitudes and their post separation parenting relationship. Developing a Parental Alliance can be key to making shared care a success. A Parental Alliance is based on the mutual positive regard parents have for each other as parents
One of the tools used by experts is the Parental Alliance Measure. This assesses the parenting aspects of a couple’s relationship and examines each parent’s perception of the strength of their parenting alliance—how cooperative, communicative, and mutually respectful they are with regard to caring for their children.
Often, it is the lack of mutual respect either one or both parents have for the other, which is their downfall. This is particularly so where there has been a history of family violence or controlling behaviour by one parent over the other.
If the parents try to impose a shared care arrangement on the children where this Parental Alliance is lacking, it can be difficult for all involved, particularly the children.
Experts have found that “rigid arrangements, often fuelled by acrimony and poor cooperation and set out in court orders, were associated with higher depressive and anxiety symptoms in children.”
Breakup Recovery Coach Joanne Michelle says “An important thing to remember when you are in a co-parenting relationship is to remind yourself even though you are both no longer Partners, you are still Parents to your children.  Keep any differences separate when it comes to caring for your children, and always make decisions based in the best interests of your children”.
So what can you do to make a shared care arrangement more likely to work and be beneficial for all?
Develop a joint plan
It is important to come up with a plan for how things will work for the children, both in the short term and the long term. You might be able to get along now, but sometimes things change, so it is good to have a backup plan that will apply if you later cannot agree. A plan also means that as the parents, you tell the children what is going to happen. It gives them some certainty in what can be a very uncertain time and avoids putting them in the middle.
Be flexible
Once you have the default plan in place, you may from time to time need to vary from it. And that is ok. You might feel annoying that you miss out on you scheduled time so the other parent can take the children to a special event, but remember, you are also likely to want to be able to take the children to something special outside of the plan in the future, and flexibility goes both ways.
Don’t assume the worst
Sometimes things go wrong – people run late, forget to do something or do things you don’t like. Don’t rush to assume that something the other parent does is a deliberate choice by them to do something to upset you. It might be that they are just a parent having a bad day.
Be Respectful
No matter how upset you are, lashing out at the other parent is not going to bring about a positive result for anyone. Likewise, saying bad things about the other parent in front of the children only serves to hurt your children. Be the bigger person.
Get educated
No parent is perfect. Separation is a stressful time for everyone and every parent can take positive steps to learn more about how separation impacts your children and what you can do to help them. There are many great services out there. Organisations such as Marymead, and Relationships Australia, for example, offer great parenting courses as well as support groups for parents (and children) who need assistance.
Don’t obsess about ‘equal’ time
Having a ‘shared care’ arrangement is not about ensuring you have mathematically calculated the exact number of hours/days/nights that each parent has with the children. It is not about what is fair, it is about what works best for the children. Focus on quality time with the children, not quantity – this is what your children will remember.
Don’t go to court
Going to Court is likely to break down any Parental Alliance you may have been able to develop. There are many alternatives to Court including Collaborative Law, Mediation, Facilitation, Negotiation and Arbitration. Staying out of Court and using one of these alternative dispute resolution methods is much more likely to be conducive to shared care.
What to do next?
Not all Family Lawyers encourage you to go to Court – in fact – that is the last place I want you to go (particularly if you want shared care!) But that doesn’t mean avoiding legal advice. Legal advice that is particular to your circumstances is just one piece of the puzzle in developing a plan that will stand the test of time. Before you jump in the deep end, get some advice from a lawyer who specialises in family law.
Contact me or one of my colleagues at Farrar Gesini Dunn for advice about your options.

kasey fox

Kasey Fox is a Family Lawyer and Director at Farrar Gesini Dunn,Canberra Office 

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Thursday 25 February 2016

Buying a house with your de facto

Buying Real Estate with your partner, particularly if it’s your first home, can be an exciting time. However, it is also a very large commitment and comes with significant financial and legal ramifications. It also raises a number of questions for you as a couple that not everyone takes the time to sit down and discuss. If you want to avoid ending up in Family Court fighting over the house, you need to get advice before you buy.

Some of the things you should be considering and discussing with your partner include:
  • how much money are you each putting in?
  • who is paying the legal fees, stamp duty and other expenses?
  • will the house be in both your names or just one name?
  • if you both own it, do you want it to be as joint tenants or tenants in common?
  • In what shares will you pay the mortgage?
  • Are either of you entitled to concessions?
  • How will you share other costs like rates, water, repairs, body corporate fees, insurance, utilities etc?
  • If one of you becomes ill and can’t work, how will the mortgage be paid?
  • What will happen to the property if one of you dies?
  • What will happen if you separate? How do you decide who keeps the house and who will move out?
  • What happens if you separate and then sell the home? How do you decide how the proceeds of sale are divided? Should you divide the profit (or loss) equally? Should you be reimbursed for what you contributed?
  • What if you separate and you want to keep the house? How much will you have to pay the other person?
  • Do you plan to have children? And if so, does that change how you think the property should be treated in the event of separation?
Your conveyancing solicitor will usually not be able to cover all of these areas, particularly if they are representing both you and your partner in relation to the purchase.
You need to seek expert advice from a family lawyer regarding your circumstances and such advice needs to be given independently from your partner. In particular, you should explore whether a Binding Financial Agreement (pre-nup) would be appropriate. These agreements set out what happens if you separate in the future.
You should also discuss your will and estate plan with your lawyer to determine what would happen in the event of your death. It is also highly recommended to seek advice from financial experts, including regarding your borrowing capacity and adequate income protection insurance.
Buying property is a significant decision and one of the biggest financial investment decisions most people will make. The information can seem overwhelming, but it is well worth putting in the time to do your research before you bid at auction or make an offer.
Before you take the plunge, make sure you:
  1. obtain all of the information and expert advice you can so that you are making an informed decision; and
  2. discuss these issues in depth with your partner so that you are both on the same page.

Shared from the Farrar Gesini Dunn Blog - originally posted at: http://www.fgd.com.au/blog/buying-real-estate-with-your-partner/ 
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Wednesday 27 January 2016

Digital Divorce

More than ever before, technology is being used as evidence in Family Law proceedings. When I first started practice, evidence was occasionally provided in the form of damning letters, emails or text messages. Nowadays, it is much more common and comes in so many more forms: Facebook, Messenger, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, Blogs, WhatsApp… and I’m sure many more that I’ve never even heard of! 

Things to avoid on social media if you have separated (or are likely to in the future):





   
Assuming it is private – Just because you aren’t connected with your ex on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram/Snapchat etc, and/or have high security settings, don’t assume they won’t see what you’ve posted. These things have a way of getting back to your ex (and to the Court). You should assume that anything you post, can and will be used against you in a dispute.

Over sharing – I know you might be angry with your ex, and need a place to vent, but social media is not the place to do it, particularly if you have kids. This includes commenting on other people’s posts, posting in groups, posting inappropriate photos, sending private messages, etc. If you are about to post something that could offend your ex in any way or be used against you: just don’t! Before you hit the button, think to yourself, “What would the Judge think if they were seeing this?” Because chances are, if you end up in Court, that is exactly who will be reading your posts (along with the lawyers, your ex, the child experts etc).

‘Liking’ – Just because you didn’t originally write that post, say that quote or create that meme, doesn’t mean it can’t be used against you. True, you may not have written the words “my ex is a deadbeat ” (for example) but if you just shared someone else’s post or tweet that says exactly that, or hit “like” on someone’s post, tweet or picture that says the same, you may as well have said it yourself.

Drunk dialing – had a glass of wine and think it would be a great time to tell your ex what you really think of them? Trust me, it’s not. Texting and emailing are just as bad (if not worse).

#TMI – Sometimes posting on social media is not only unwise, but it could be a criminal offense. Under section 121 of the Family Law Act, if you publish an account or part of proceedings that identifies parties to a dispute, or a witness, you may be found guilty of an offense, with the possibility of imprisonment. My recommendation – if you are involved in a family law matter that is in Court, do not post ANYTHING about the case or the people involved.

The golden rule: If you don’t have anything nice to say, DON’T: say, write, post, like, comment, tweet or share it! Get a digital divorce.
Have you posted something you shouldn’t have?

Shared from the Farrar Gesini Dunn Blog - originally posted at: http://www.fgd.com.au/blog/digital-divorce/
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By Kasey Fox Lawyer

Things to avoid on social media